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Editors note: Nothing stirs up questions for Carolyn Hax like a wedding. And many a bridesmaid has wondered how to navigate the role as supporting cast. Here, we round up some of Carolyns most interesting advice for members of the wedding party from the last 15 years.

Carolyn Hax

Carolyn Hax started her advice column in 1997 as a weekly feature for The Washington Post, accompanied by the work of relationship cartoonist Nick Galifianakis. She is the author of Tell Me About It (Miramax, 2001), and the host a live online discussion on Fridays at noon.

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May 2010: Nixing a bridesmaid for being too fat

Dear Carolyn:

So college friend A just disinvited college friend B from being a bridesmaid -- because B is fat and would ruin the pictures and the look of her big day. Friend A did tell me that if B lost some weight, shed let her back in the wedding party.

Her rationale is that B promised to lose the weight by the wedding but didnt, and that whenever there is a big bridesmaid everyone is looking at her and not the bride.

I am so angry about As nastiness that I cant even think straight. Is it kosher for me to drop out in solidarity with B (with whom I am actually not that close)? What is the best way for me to communicate to A that she is a gigantic [idiot]? I dont know if I even want to be friends anymore.

B hosted a bridal shower, has come to all the fittings/food tastings/other assorted events. Shes a good egg. I heard from mutual friend C that B spent the morning crying. I would too! What can I say to B?

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