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For most women, losing weight after having a baby is far from being a priority. Between recovery from birth, sleepless nights, breastfeeding around the clock and utter bone-crushing exhaustion, if the best you can manage is a stroll around the block with bub in the pram, you're in good company.

But if you've ever felt pressure to "bounce back," whether from social media or your own family, you're not alone. For one woman, the pressure came from her mother-in-law and she's not sure she'll ever be able to forgive her.

"This happened right after the birth of my first daughter, 10 years ago," she wrote on Reddit. "Twomonths after the birth I was barely hanging on: my baby had colic, my husband worked every hour of the week, we had just moved and I knew no one in town, breastfeeding was a struggle, and my pre-pregnancy anxiety was manifesting as some seriously complex post-partum feelings."

The mum shared that she was carrying an extra 20lbs (9kg) more than before her pregnancy "and wasn't feeling very good about it."

"My mother-in-lawchose this time to send me a card with a picture of myself in it taken at my wedding, fiveyears before," she wrote. "The text of her message suggested that I put the picture of myself up on the fridge to "inspire" myself to lose weight. "

According to the furious mum, the card read: "Look at those arms, look at that little waist! "I think you'd feel a lot happier about everything if you lost the baby weight."

And that's not the worst of it. The card was also full of " annoying, insulting and frankly unreasonable suggestions" about how she might lose the weight. "But mostly," she continues, "I'll never forget the last line of the card. It said: If all else fails, justremember: nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.

"So basically, don't eat so that you can be skinny again, sevenweeks after the baby is born."

As you can imagine, Redditors were outraged.

"What a stupid thing to say ... Especially when you were breastfeeding!" one commenter said. "Like yeah, a starving baby and starving mumma is such a good idea because you want me to be skinny MIL!! Yikes I hope she pulled her head in over the last decade."

"My youngest was 18 months before I even thought about losing weight,' said another. "I may have been on the late side of things, but breastfeeding made me constantly ravenous!"

"To insult your body after its achieved THE most amazing thing in the world is so shallow, petty and malicious," added one mum."To go so far as to send a card with points is infuriating. No wonder it's still on your mind all these years later."

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'Look at those arms': Mother-in-law's outrageous weight comment to new mum - Essential Baby

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