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I am a transgender man & I gave birth to a son heres why I think you should stop linking pregnancy with… – The US Sun

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BENNETT Kaspar-Williams says his nurses insisted on calling him a mom during his pregnancy despite being a man.

It was back in 2011 when Bennett first realized he was trans but he didnt begin his transition for another three years.

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He met his future husband, Malik, in 2017 and the two married in 2019. The couple wanted to have children and went over their options until they decided on having Bennett stop taking his testosterone hormone therapy.

Doing this allowed Bennetts ovaries to function as he hasnt received bottom surgery. He said he would be comfortable trying to conceive and carry a child.

Soon after, Bennett became pregnant and he and Malik welcomed their son Hudson in October 2020 via Cesarean section.

In the summer of 2015, Bennett had top surgery to remove his breastspaying $5,000 for the operation.

Bennett called the operation liberating.

I had this feeling that it was something that I needed to do, but I never had a self-hatred of my breasts, like some trans people.

Bennett added that he didnt have dysphoria over certain parts of his body but added that he never could have anticipated the relief of having his breasts gone.

It was a huge weight off my shoulders.

Bennett says that bottom half surgery is off the table because hes not dysphoric about that part of his body.

When it came to carrying and giving birth to his own child, however, Bennett says it wasnt a straightforward decision.

I always knew it was a possibility that my body might achieve pregnancy, but it wasnt something I ever wanted to do until I learned how to separate the function of my body from any notions of gender, he said.

Bennett added that he learned to think of his body as a tool instead of a collection of gendered stereotypes which helped him realize that he wanted to have a child naturally.

No one can ever really know whether having children is possible until you trybeing born with a uterus doesnt make conceiving or carrying a certainty.

Thats why its so important that we stop defining womanhood in terms of motherhood because its a false equivalency that all women can become mothers, that all mothers carry their children, or that all people who carry children are mothers.

Bennett became pregnant in March 2020 without any medical intervention except getting off testosterone.

He says he and Malik expected the process to take longer than it did but the two became worried as the pandemic happened.

This was just about a week before we went into lockdown here in March 2020, so my high spirits were pretty quickly replaced by anxiety around the pandemic and how I would keep myself and my baby safe.

He gave birth to Hudson in October of last year but says that he was constantly misgendered by the nurses despite having a beard and a flat chest.

The only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misgendering that happened to me when I was getting medical care, he said.

Even with a full beard, a flat chest, and a male gender marker on all my identification, people could not help but default to calling me mom, mother or maam.

Bennett says nothing about his pregnancy felt feminine to him and that carrying a child during the pandemic was the bravest thing hes ever done.

Nothing feels stronger than being able to say Im a dad who created my own child.

Bennett says he loves watching Hudson learn and share new discoveries with him, adding that its beautiful to see how children arent clouded by prejudice.

Children are these amazing beings that dont see the world with the same bias and preconceptions that adults do, Bennett said.

To my son, theres nothing more natural and normal than having a Dada and a Papa, and when hes old enough, he will come to know that his Dada was the one who carried him and took care of him so he could come into this world.

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