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Woman who tried to be male accuses doctor of lying about transition impact – Lifesite

BELGIUM, March 13, 2020 (LifeSiteNews) A 21-year-old woman from Belgium who portrayed herself as a male, then reverted to presenting herself according to hertrue sex is speaking out about the deception of the doctor who encouraged her to go through with hormone drugs and mutilating surgeryand the lack of countervailing voices that could have spared her the experience.

This week, the BBC published an interview with Ellie and her 24-year-old paramour Nele, who is also a former trans man. Both subjected themselves to testosterone as well as double mastectomies.

I realised I was doing a lot of boy things, and some people werent fine with that especially other kids, Ellie recalls of her childhood. In her teens, she came out as a lesbianand decided, I just didnt want to be a woman. I wanted to be neutral and do whatever I wanted.

She began to seek out male hormones at age 16 after seeing YouTube videos on the subject. The first doctor she and her parents consulted suggested waiting until she was older, so she found a second one who told her what she wanted to hear. A year later, she had her breasts removed.

He told my parents that all the effects [of hormones] were reversible which is the biggest lie, Ellie recalls. I had done my research, and I knew that this doctor could not be trusted. But I was just so happy that he said that, because then my parents were OK with it.

Her father Eric recalls having reservationsbut feeling reassured by the doctor that this was for the best. I wouldve liked to have met someone to give me the words and find arguments to make her wait and think about it longer, but there was no-one, he admits.

As a university student in Germany, Ellie initially enjoyed living as and passing for a man, but eventually, she started to feel like I had to hide so many aspects of my life, and not talk about my childhood as a girl. I didnt feel comfortable being seen as a cis man, and I started to feel like I didnt fit in anywhere.

These issues made dating a challenge, but eventually she met Nele, and the two bonded over their shared issues. Nele too had grown up uncomfortable with her sex, had taken transgender hormones, and with Ellies support had her own double mastectomy.

Yet personal and ideological factors both continued to cast doubts on their male identities. The ongoing debate between transgender activists and traditional feminists had Ellie questioning if she was truly transgendered or if her change was just a way I found to go through life, while she and Nele were both diagnosed with vaginal atrophy, a side-effect of testosterone.

Isnt it worth trying to go natural for a bit, and just see how it goes? Nele thought, and Ellie agreed.

Today, the two maintain the website Post-Trans.com, a space for female detransitioners and desisters to share their journeys.

Detransitioning for me means to stop denying the female experience I have, Ellie writes. Detransitioning for me means taking agency over my dysphoria. Detransitioning for me means discovering the body I started altering since the age of 16 and finally working on accepting it exactly the way it is. Detransitioning for me does not mean trying to go back to my insecure 16-year-old self, but to move forward and become the strong female individual I want to be.

Nele says that despite her experiences and ultimate decision to reverse it, she doesnt regret her initial transition. She credits transition as the only alternative to suicide she saw at the timebut acknowledges that it also brought me to a place of reflection on why I really transitioned, which eventually ended with her resolving to face the bad image of women that society taught me and embrace a new and stronger one.

A range of medical literature suggests that exposing gender-confused children to transition treatment is harmful in the long run, in no small part because fixating on gender affirmation tends to distract from exploring other issues that may be at the root of a patients mental or emotional unrest.

In 2017, the University of Cambridges Stonewall report found that 96 percent of trans students in Scotland attempted self-harm through actions such as cutting themselves, and 40 percent attempted suicide. Forty percent in the United States have attempted suicide, as well, according to a 2016 survey from the National Center for Transgender Equality (NCTE). According to a 2011 study out of Sweden, trans people remain 19 times more likely to commit suicide than the general population, even after surgery to reconstruct their bodies.

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